Things Everyone Should Do After A Break-Up
What to Do After a Painful Breakup to Heal Faster!
One of the trickiest parts of navigating post-breakup reality is figuring out whether you actually want to stay in touch. Sometimes totally eliminating the ex from your life will serve you better in the short (and maybe long) term.
There are a ton of factors that can go into that decision — how long you were together, whether the breakup was amicable or mutual, whether you share friends, pets, or a living space.
Stay with friends or family for a bit, go on a social media detox, and spend some time focusing on what you really want. It may make sticking to your decision easier since you’ll be extra clear on how you got there.
Temporarily cross those off your list of go-to places and try mixing up your routine with new and unfamiliar territory. Avoiding some of the obvious heartache-inducing spots may also help you sidestep unnecessary rumination and brooding.
Accept that it’s over, Meditate, talk to friends, journal — do whatever you can to mindfully accept where you currently are in your life and reflect on how to take steps forward, not backward.
Accept the sad, bad, and blank emotions, It can be tempting to distract yourself with a million activities but feeling your feelings rather than numbing out will help you deal with the situation and move on rather than dragging it out.
Allowing yourself time to feel sad can help you move through the emotions, but don’t let it get to the point where you’ve lost interest in all the things that used to make you happy.
Do your best to avoid total isolation and ask your nearest and dearest for some support, whether that means heart-to-heart conversations.
Consider a social detox by opting out of the apps for a while, and if you need to mute or unfollow your ex in order to really move on, then do what works for you — if they don’t respect your space or need for distance, then consider your breakup a good thing.
Don’t make drastic changes to your physical self or your personality
We talked about those terrible post-breakup bangs.
But besides unfortunate haircuts, a lot of people fall into a self-criticism spiral following the deterioration of a relationship and start looking for ways to “fix” what they assume caused things to go wrong.
Time to do some emotional house cleaning and eliminate the stuff that makes you sad, brings back a flood of memories, or in any way keeps you stuck in the past. Donate what you can or give particularly sentimental items to friends for safekeeping.
Try something new that you never got to do — alone, Whether your relationship lasted six years or six weeks, you likely got very used to being attached at the hip to another human. It’s time to do the thing you always wanted but never go to do.
We’re talking bigger than hobbies. Go for the once-in-a-lifetime stuff like skydiving, a solo trip to another country, or backpacking in the woods!
Use your new free time to build new skills or habits, Sometimes the best way to get through a tough time is to take the focus off yourself entirely or explore a totally unfamiliar skill.
Volunteer with an organization you care about, take random classes, join a sports league — do anything that gets you out of that dreaded comfort zone and opens your eyes to new horizons.
