How To Understand Men: The Survival Guide.

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 They Definitely Have Emotions, As much as people think men are emotionless machines who don’t care about anything, they really do. In some ways, men care more than women.

The difference is, they don’t show it as much. A lot of how they’re feeling is processed internally and that can make things difficult for women.

We think they’re just sitting there without a care in the world while we’re falling apart. However, you have to keep in mind that it might even be harder for men.

They care just as much, if not more, and they can’t show it. That has to be difficult for them.

They Don’t Think With Their Emotions, Unlike women, men aren’t really driven by their emotional side. Their decisions aren’t based on how they feel but rather on logic.

You might think this is complete BS based on the fact that men are rather impulsive when they’re angry, but it’s true.

When making a decision, men as a whole are more likely to take logic into consideration instead of how they feel about something.

So if you’re confused as to why a man would be doing something even if it doesn’t match how he feels, this is why.

They’re Visual Beings, Women tend to be the more emotional-based sex and guys are usually more visual. Meaning: while women prefer emotional stimulation, guys like to look at nice things.

This can make it really confusing when first getting to know a guy.

You might think the way to his heart is through meaningful conversation, and it is, at times, but right off the bat, a guy needs to be visually stimulated.

They Need Affection In Different Ways, But they do still need it. Guys do want affection in relationships. They might not necessarily need you to tell them they’re sexy, though that’s still appreciated.

However, they want to feel affection in different ways than you do.

For men, it’s about fulfilling a need for you. They

feel loved and cared for if you need them to do stuff for you.

Which means pretending the pickle jar is too difficult to open can go a long way in making your man feel wanted.

Give him jobs that you could do, but make it seem like you can’t. He’ll feel like he has a purpose in your life this way.

Nagging Will Never Work, You have to provide incentive. It may sound harsh to use a dog as comparison, but it’s true.

They’re the type of “dog” that needs some kind of reward to condition them to do the things you appreciate.

It’s as simple as telling him he looks really sexy doing the dishes. That gives his ego a boost and rewards him in a very specific way.

He’ll associate doing the dishes–a chore you really want him to do–with turning you on: something he really wants to do for you.

Loyalty Is Extremely Valuable, If there’s one way to learn how to understand men, it’s to figure out what’s the most important to them. Usually, it’s loyalty.

Men tend to be driven by their pride. They hold their own value based on how others treat them and if you’re loyal to the end, it means more to them than you know.

Disloyalty, cheating, and betrayal hurt men far more than it even hurts women. So if you put him down or go against him in front of others, it’ll cause major issues that go deeper than you can understand.

Knowing these boundaries, however, can really make a man emotionally attracted to you.

They Usually Mean What They Say, There’s no point in overthinking everything a guy says.

He usually doesn’t mean something complex and ridiculous by telling you he likes your hair parted a different way.

He usually just means he really likes how you parted your hair. This doesn’t mean he didn’t like it before or that he’s trying to hide the fact that he doesn’t truly like it.

Looking into every little thing a guy “secretly” means is pointless. Trust his word.

They Hold Pride In Possessions More Than Qualities, Guys aren’t really all that thrilled if they can play an instrument or are all that talented in a specific field.

They do care, however, about what they can get from having those qualities.

More specifically, men take pride in what they have. And although you’re not his possession exactly, he still sees you as something he has.

Meaning, he’s proud of you. He takes great pride in your accomplishments just as he does his own. Remember that.

Talking Doesn’t Always Help When They’re Upset, Unlike women, men don’t always benefit from talking about their feelings. They actually do better processing things internally when they’re upset or angry.

So instead of forcing him to tell you what’s wrong, accept that he needs some time to sort it out himself.

And if he feels like chatting about it later, he’ll come to you in order to feel happy again.